GH, I agree with you. Reflecting back, I am not acting AS IF when she tells me the details. I just listen, when she is talking about A she is basically bitching about A and OM. I keep looking very good to her and she knows that I have made changes in my life and she noticed w/o me telling her. I have changed my actions that led to the affair. I guess all in all it is very hard to listen to the details but sit shows me is tiring of the A and the lines of communication are definetly open. I just am keeping this line of communication open so she knows she can talk to me and that the door is open so to speak. Its hard to describe because of the mental abuse OM (manipulation) has dealt her, and know I believe there is physical. I know she will not admit that to me because she knows I will not take that sitting down. A MAN SHOULD NEVER STRIKE A WOMAN. Her telling ne the info is the truth and it sure beats snooping and getting the wrong idea. I know I am her safety net, she knows how seriously I took my vows. She also knows whats in my heart from the last time the A ended we,had about 4-5 weeks of really good talks and time spent together. But the monster came back. Any CONSTRUCTIVE criticism, every situation is different and DBing needs different tweaks.
