BS.....I said my wife is near rock bottom, she is a emotional mess..The only thing I can do right now is be her best friend while Dbing. I fear that SUICIDE would be an option for her if I was not the rock in her life. I have good reason to fear SUICIDE for her, I will continue DB while waiting for the affair to die, get her help, then worry about our marriage. Sometimes you have to swallow your pride and just do the job at hand. Foolish pride gets u no where.