Acting as if when spouse tells you everything

[Brian_M]

I was talking about acting "AS IF"

Tryingtosave
Either brace yourself or stop reading now because I am about to lay into you. Assuming you are still reading, WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU? Why in the world would you act “as if” when she tells you about her A? First, your W left you. Then, she has an A. Though, she finally realized that the A was not all that she had hoped. So what does she do? She crawls back to her safety net, the pushover that will let her get away with it, YOU! Do you want to be a door mat?

Assuming that you don’t like being walked on, then stand up for yourself! Be a man right now, not her best friend. Your W betrayed you. There is nothing “as if” about that. You are hurt. You are angry. Now own that and be honest about it! Most importantly, be honest with your W about how angry you are. You need a 180 alright. Do the 180 right now and tell your W that she betrayed in a despicable and low way. Now, if she wants you back, then she needs to work for it. Then, if she is lucky and does a convincing enough job, then maybe, just maybe, you will start to trust her again over time.

Good luck…