So, my snooping - as all you warned me -- has caused WAY more problems than it helped... (And yet, and yet...he and I have discussed it -- and I NEEDED to be kept focused on his lying, to NOT fall into believing his lies... Not believing from his gentleness and kindness toward me and his sexual contact, and his (for the first time) open honesty, that he was turning back toward me. I HAD to keep being faced with his complete addiction to her so I did not get too much hope (some hope, yes, not so much I forget he's, for now, planning on divorcing me...)

He understands that. He can see my point. He is still very disturbed by his OWN lying, and now also by mine...

Well, we can only keep on as we are... Sadly,

Neo's WIfe

My thread is under the Infidelity/Adultery section and is called Mea Maxima Culpa -- but I can't get the link to work.