Hi Pmd, No, I made a commitment to him when we married to lose weight. I failed (through my own lack of diligence) to meet that commitment. I completely understand that, moreso even than most men, he is visually oriented, and needs a "womanly" figure to turn him on or hold his interest... (Thankfully, his idea of "womanly" is one I can meet! His standard comment on seeing most actresses and models is: "Quick! Someone buy that girl a milkshake!!" He does NOT like skinny women -- and considers anything below about size 14 to be too skinny! I CAN do that -- I just didn't.)
It's not insulting, but (I believe) a legitimate "calling to account" for my my failure to do something (lose weight). I AM losing weight now -- I am being diligent in watching my diet (where before I hadn't been, taking refuge in comfort foods as he withdrew. (Cue and counter action, just as Michele decribes it!) and I've joined the Y and do water aerobics four times a week.
NW
My thread is under the Infidelity/Adultery section and is called Mea Maxima Culpa -- but I can't get the link to work.
