Kent and ATLT...this is kind of creepy-but after reading your posts over the weekend, I can't help but wonder if we aren't in fact in the same relationship.
I can totally relate to your triggers-it seems as though sometimes I am living one continuous trigger. It's still relatively new for me (less than 5 months from the bomb) but the images are still there...not as much-but it depends on what I'm doing, and if he's away for work.
Like Kent said-when I realize them, the images come, sometimes I cry and then do my best to squash them and move on. I try to throw myself into my work at least during the day and since I am in 'learning mode' as a part-time student I try focus on that-however, sometimes it is so NOT possible and it feels like I've lost my mind.....I wish my H would let me know that see this in me more and offer help-he says when he does, but it brings all his feelings of guilt right back up in his face, like you said ALTL-he hates to be reminded of what he did and how much is hurts me/us. He says the right things in therapy...but does not seem to put them into practice when we get home...I know, stop sniveling-at least he's going-I am thankful for that.
This past weekend, during an intimate moment between me and H, I started having bad feelings, a trigger....not really a motivater if you know what I mean-and here lately I can feel H distancing himself from me, to which he says is only my imagination.
At any rate, I loved Kent's list, printed it out-will keep it with me and try to put it into practice....however, I backslided this morning...and on that note I will start a new thread.
