Just reading back over all-y'all's helpful messages...
Quote: kml wrote: Don't communicate with OW. Tell H you would very much appreciate it if the woman he is cheating on you with would have the class to QUIT BOTHERING YOU!!!! Let H have to leap to your defense rather than hers.
kml, he would NOT leap to my defense -- his concern in wanting to see my messages to her (before I sent them) has been to prevent my messages from upsetting HER! {sigh} He, at one point, denied her permission to write to me, despite her unhappiness about that, because she was getting hysterical over her misperceptions of what I was writing... (he even agreed she was MIS-perceiving -- but her hysterics (directed only at him) always became MY fault , so I finally refused to contact her...
Because i had been hopeless about the M; because I completely believed it was entirely over ; I was trying to help him get her... having found Michele W-D -- I am now *COMPLETELY* over THAT! (And yes, I know, I'm committing to doing Michele's stuff -- and contacting the lizard is NOT okay... Working on that.)
Finished DR last night, and have begun it again. Will actually DO the exercises and writing goals and all she suggests now.
My thread is under the Infidelity/Adultery section and is called Mea Maxima Culpa -- but I can't get the link to work.
