Per Grasshopper's suggestion, I've moved them over from another thread I started, which I will abandon and refer back over here...

Grasshopper very kindly answered me (there) with this:
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I need to run right now and my only advice is that you BETTER be done snooping! If you want to move forward, you really need to end this practice NOW. It does NOTHING to help ANYBODY, least of all, YOU. Use these 10 days to go cold turkey and 100% focus on YOU! I think you are ready to do that but just follow through on it!
GH


My thread is under the Infidelity/Adultery section and is called Mea Maxima Culpa -- but I can't get the link to work.