Wow, that's a MONSTER post but I will distill my response down to be a little shorter. I have a couple main impressions/points.
Yes, stop making him breakfast. Sure he doesn't want you to do that but then again you don't want his thing residing in another woman either. You see how that works? It's NOT about what he wants, it's about what YOU want. I think him percieving you as a "aunt" has a LOT to do with the way you subjugate YOU needs for everyone else's, especially his. I know it seems counterintuative to STOP doing things for him when that is what he values you for but you really do need to scale it back. Aunts, in the way HE means are neither mothers, wives or sisters. They are NOT someone to have sex with because they are simply not sexual (yuck). For you to ditch this perception, you have to simply stop being his aunt and for that matter, HIS anything else and be YOUR OWN WOMAN, filled with YOUR OWN desires and the will to make them happen.
As for the trip, I think you have a GREAT plan to start the process of growing into being that woman you CAN be. Please, fill your days and nights with good, informational reading and also some FUN! Do that thing that your "aunt" self would NEVER do. Really search your mind and come up with some stuff that you wanted to do way-back-when and just never did. Do it now if you can.
Quote: He said again, that he is "coming home to me" after this vacation (he's now calling it a vacation... is he lying or what?
Well, he could be lying, or this could be his vision of the future, who knows. This is why it has to stop being about him and start being about YOU.
I know this is really hard for you. Lastly, please post here often. We will keep you company and try to keep you from going down too many dark paths.
