Welcome and sorry to hear what you are going through. I am not sure if my thread will help you, but I do have an H in some permutation of MLC although he is still relatively well behaved IMHO (you learn how to be grateful for what is still sane and good!) My H is also having a long distance A and the first trip he took to visit the OW after I knew abou the A was excruciating for me, but I made it. I hope and pray my H never feels like he needs to go again, but if he does, I will not be able to stop him. It's just not something I have any control over. For my H to come back to our M or to me, it will have to be his choice.
To answer your question:
Quote: How do I keep my pain and fear and desperation under control? HOW do I make it through ten days with him off with her? ( I guess, just as I have bent and accommodated every other thing that's happened in the last several months... I've gone from swearing that I would never accept a cheating husband, to working diligently to keep just such a man... Amazing how flexible we can become when we really want to!
all I can say is it is one day at a time. The anticipation for me was much worse than when my H was actually there. I didn't think about it once he was gone, I would have just been torturing myself, and why would I want to do that? I went back to church, planted a garden, took beach walks every day, made plans with friends almost every night. I made it. And, today is a good day. I recommend that you read and work the Divorce Remedy book, and particularly work on yourself.
Hang in there, and keep posting to these boards for support. It has been busy lately though. So remember to post to others too, and create relationships, and also to ask for people to look in on you if you have an urgent situation. Link your thread in your signature line so people can find you. Good luck and hang in there.
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