Thanks so much Grasshopper -- I've really enjoyed and learned from your responses all over the forum. You're wise and kind!
I'm struggling a lot today with NOT snarling at him... He leaves in three days... I'm SO hurt and angry... I'm envisioning (okay, rehearsing!) phone calls to her place about work (because I'll be handling the business by myself and there is a LOT I cannot do by myself...) and how I HAVE to keep myself from snarling at her if she tries to pretend he's not living there and so on. I guess that's borrowing trouble and I should quit, but it's that or cry...
And because I don't know if he's lying or telling me the truth about ANYthing, I don't know if I should trust his kindnesses to me, or not... Sometimes he REALLY seems to remember how good we are together, and then other times all he can see is her!
Oh well , all I can do is all I can do... I'll keep reading here (I've been watching Michele's Marriage Breakthrough seminar in the workshop -- and he's been listening to it too.... He asked me a question (which I can't quite remember at the moment: I told him I'd have to think about it) about how I view him, in relation to something Michele said, so I know he's paying some attention. YAY!
My thread is under the Infidelity/Adultery section and is called Mea Maxima Culpa -- but I can't get the link to work.
