Positively new thread - how do you deal with this?

[RBinBR]

PL, I don't think you really want to say that to your H. That's why going dark can be a good option. When you get to the point where your resentment is such that you can't effectively DB anymore (and I think everyone eventually reaches that point, whether they admit it or not), then it's definitely best to pull back (rather than show our resentment). You're effectively dark for a week, which is good, but you may want to start planning for a longer period.

I've been able to tolerate the last ten weeks or so (and DB effectively) only because I've been planning to go dark at the end of them.