Positively new thread - how do you deal with this?

[RBinBR]

PL, I hate to say it, but you D needs to tell your H how she feels instead of dumping on you and bringing you down. My grandmother is telling me the same things, and I don't even want to talk to her anymore, because I just don't need to hear it.

I'm glad you are telling your SIL. The secrecy thing doesn't work for me either. Keeping it a secret almost makes it feel as if its your fault or something, like you have something to hide. Bearing this burden is hard enough without having to pretend.