Positively new thread - how do you deal with this?

[PositivelyListening]

Hi RB, You are so right:

I'll advise what I always tell people in your position -- take a break. Figure out a way to avoid calling him about business (can you just email him) and give yourself a break for a week or two with no phone or personal contact. It will help you detach, and it will give you some peace from which you can make some decisions. It might also make him curious, so don't tell him that you're taking a break -- just do it.

Every time I have taken a break (first time was 2 weeks after the reveal of A in January when I went to Atlanta for an education weekend) it has helped me regain my center. When I am home, I feel too predictable. When I am away, he wonders, and I have a GREAT time. So how do I create more wondering at home? Tonight on the phone, he told me that tomorrow he wants to drop by after work. I told him I wasn't sure I would be here but come on by if he wants to do some work in the office. [I have a beach walk planned with a friend, and I intend to take it!] But I don't want to feel like I have to invent activities to take me away from my home and doggie and kitty at night just to be mysterious. But I can perhaps, have D answer the phone and be less available if H calls. I think I need a phone with caller ID so I can screen calls when I'm home and not take his if I don't want to. I can do that on my cell, but not at home. I would have screened H tonight, but then I would have missed that cheery financial talk I think less of H will help me right now. The only thing I would really like to hear from H at the moment, is that he's committed to working on our M. Other than that (which surely isn't likely) I think you are right, I just need more space.

Thanks for being there, RB. I really look forward to seeing your posts. And your sitch has definitely given me hope. So thanks for sticking around through your dark times. I will eat, exercise, and read tonight. I am sure some of this will help. God bless you.