Positively new thread - how do you deal with this?

[RBinBR]

PL, sorry to continue the hijack of sitch here, but hey, at least you're getting some comments.

I have to say that I may be one of the few people on this board who has benefited from snooping.

The time that I looked at my wife's cell phone and read all the text messages from the OM was a great relief to me. He was so childish (I know he was 20 years old, but still...). The emails were goo-goo gaa-gaa kind of baby talk. It was sick, yes, but I was sure then, and remain sure now, that my W will eventually decide that she wants to be with a man, not with a needy little boy whose mother divorced three times growing up and never gave him the love that he needed.

There was also the time early on after W left that I snooped on her bank card statements and discovered that OM didn't even have enough money to take her to Red Lobster or Chili's -- she had to pay all their expenses for both of them.

I'm not at all writing this in opposition to the general theory on the dangers of snooping, but just to point out an apparent exception in my case.