Positively new thread - how do you deal with this?

[RBinBR]

PL, congratulations on surviving to a 2nd thread! Ha ha. I'm sure that we all wish we could reconcile and close these threads down.

I know that we're not supposed to do R talks, but it has been an awfully long time since your H got back from Europe. I can definitely understand your need to know something about where he is. It might be time for a heart-to-heart, since I can see your frustration with the stagnation of your sitch. I think, though, that you should wait until after your coaching session before doing that, so you can get some professional advice.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but as far as the book you're reading (I assume that it's Love Must be Tough by Dr. James Dobson, I think that particular advice you mention is for those still living with their spouses in a marital relationship while the spouse continues an A. There's already been the "shake up" in your case, because he's already out of the house.

You may, though, want to see if there are any 180's that you can do to change the dynamics of your sitch. Remember that Michele tells us to constantly experiment and monitor results. If you can't think of any, that might be good to ask your coach for ideas.