Hi alottolearn- This is a great idea for a topic and I hope to give it more thought and respond with some of the things I've encountered. I'm continuing to learn during the rebuilding process with my H and it is interesting to think back and reflect on the periods when I was I suppose less willing to accept certain things that didn't jive with my own exact way of thinking or my plans. I now have a healthier understanding of what it means to accept differences and to work together, as opposed to (for my part) being someone who too often placed herself in the role of the "ultimate persuader." The subtleties of each approach are amazing, as are the differing results. Take care-Jamie
