ARE you listening to the quiet voice inside you that is telling you this is YUKKY?
Why do you suppose it feels yukky? maybe because deep down you smell a rat?
Rowena don't sell your home. You do have a choice, and your husband can not force you to sell your home. He is being manipulative and trying to guilt you into selling it but you do have a choice STAND YOUR GROUND!!
Never do anything if your not sure.
As for him wanting a divorce, may be he means from commitment. He wants you in a dating fashion, whereby he can have all the fun but none of the commitment. OR responsibility.
Rowena you must tell him what you will accept and stick to your guns. Do you want to just date him? Or do you want the commitment that he wants to stay in the marriage?
This man wants freedom it sounds. He is like a caged animal, not secure! SO if you get a divorce and sell the house will you feel any better. I don't think so! Then you'll definitely be on pins thinking is he going to be off.
Further Rowena do you want to settle for the crumbs this man is offering? I would tell him straight that you want commitment, you don't want flimpsy dating where you don't know from one minute to the next want he wants. You want his commitment to work on you two as a couple.
It seems he wants all the good and none of the responsbility. Hence him taking part in the family holidays and outings cuz they are good.
He seems to have the best of all worlds, but at what price, you in a confussed, unsure, unhappy state. WHAT A PRICE TO PAY.
You need to respect yourself enough not to settle for the crumbs he is offering. Otherwise he is treating you no better than a man does who has a mistress. Cuz he is doing the same thing, just spending the fun bits with you, without any commitment. DO YOU want to be like his mistress?
You need to thinking careful about what you really want long term? Do you really want a guy who doesn't want it all?
Tell him you are not going to get a divorce, nor are you selling the house. You see no reason or benefit in doing so.
He is making empty promises about building a new home also. I would be cautious.
Your body is telling you this isn't OKAY listen to it. This is why you feel confussed.
Well your body isn't confussed it knows full well that it can't trust a man who doesn't want to be married to it, or have any commitment.
SO LISTEN TO YOURSELF, You know yourself this is wrong, what your husband is asking, YOUR own VALUES are telling you this!!
