Me2, moving on, forgiving, detaching does NOT mean you brush stuff under the carpet. Your feelings are totally justified. Have you read After the Affair? I'm just reading it now, and am getting a better perspective on the situation. I couldn't have read it a year ago -- I was too fragile. But the author is very good at understanding how both parties feel -- you should not underestimate the power of your own pain. If you ignore it totally and say what a child I'm being for not getting over it, it will crop up again. You need to work through it, and go on from there. If you ignore, it goes underground.
