How do I fix my family and get my husband to come back home? My husband and I have been married for three years and together for five. We have a two year old son. After having Gavin, my son, I stayed home to take care of him since I am unable to have anymore children. Well I think that was a bad idea because I started dwelling on my life. We fought about finances so we never went out together. My 30th bday came up and I was so depressed. Thinking I wasn't good for anything. H and I fought, lost sexual desire, didn't have any us time, things were rocky. I found an old friend and he and I were hanging out. I found in him what I wanted/needed from my husband. To be fun, happy, loving. New Years the friend and I ended up fooling around and my H caught us. I was in shock as much as he was. H wanted to work things out and I wanted him to come home. I still did not feel right though about myself. I thought I might have fell out of love with him and thought that we needed to seperate so I can figure things out. I hate myself for what I have done to him. I was still talking to the friend and trying to sort though my feelings. The night my H moved out, March 1st, I knew I was making a huge mistake by letting him leave. I called friends and expressed that. After three weeks of being alone I realized how much I have missed him and how much I do love him so. I told my friend I did not want to speak to him anymore because my H and family was more important and I had to fix things. Well I called my H and explained to him that I want to work things out and he said he has a girlfriend now. I know he has brought her down to meet his family on Easter. I know who she is and she knows me. We were close friends but we hung out in the past. She is 25 and has a 4 year old daughter. Now there have been times that my H would call me and ask me to go shopping with him and he would come over and hang out with me and our son. Once his GF finds out he backs off and things are cold between us. He has called me and flirted with me. I am happy as can be thinking things are moving in the right direction then bam, cold shoulder. I dont know which end is up anymore. A friend told me my H asked him to tell me to move on. My friend told him to tell me himself he he means it. I have told my H several times how I feel, how I want things to change for his benefit and our sons's. He would sit on the phone and just listen and not say a work except he can't make that decision right now. Fine, talk all the time you need, but why can't he do it alone. I have bought the book DR and I am reading it. I also called once to speak to one of the counselors last week. I am so scared of making a wrong move. Does anyone have any other advise for me? I know in my heart he wants his marriage to work. He is a family man. His whole family is supporting me. My mom and friends too. I wish he would just talk to someone about all of this. How do I fix this???
