Me2, I think what CB meant in his choice to be with her, was his choice to stay with his wife, without asking why he made that choice, and in so doing making him relive the whole painful process over again. I went through three periods of "remission" from mlc with my h, and I've only now learned what I needed to learn through it. Maybe there's more you need to learn about yourself. I don't mean to sound hard, but your marriage didn't just fall apart because of your h's mlc -- that made it much, much worse. But it had problems or you wouldn't be here right now. Part of letting go of the past, is to try and see through the hurt and accept responsibility for your aprt. It's hard and I still stumble on that.
