Me2, Maybe you just need to figure out the best way to help him in order for him to help you. Go back to DB, read Getting through to the man you love, and get the KLA tapes if possible. He's asking you to help, maybe you're just not hearing it the right way, and maybe you need to figure out how to help him. He sounds terribly guilt-ridden, a person can't love if they have guilt, they only feel pity. If you feel like punishing him, he will continue to feel guilt, and the cycle will continue. Figure out a way to stop thinking about punishing. I know, cause this is a big one with me.
