*************************************** I have figured another thing out-what I am missing, what I need from my H is for him to display more empathy towards me and what he has done. I know he is sorry and that he regrets immensely what he did...but I need to see his empathy for how I feel. *****************************************
I'm not sure you figured it out yet. You say you know he is sorry, but that you need more. it's almost like you want to see him suffering. Keep in mind that he may be keeping his suffering from you. I kept it from my W.
**************************************** I think I might actually be able to say to him "I forgive you" if he were to be open up to me in that way. *****************************************
Forgiveness does not have these conditions on it. Remember, forgiveness benefits the forgiver more than the forgiven as it releives the pain that has bee brought onto you. Only you can decide when you are thru with the pain. Do you listen to Don Henley at all. He has a song about forgiveness. It's pretty good.
Your H is not real communicative. Very similar to my W. They show there love and attempts to connect in a different manner. What H did the other day is his attempt to reach for you. Try to revel in the fact that he still reaches. Quit worrying about how he does it.
