****************************************** I know my feelings are not productive, that is why I keep them to myself, so as to NOT depress him either, but then where is my support? It's like a double edged sword. ********************************************
For now it is us! We are here to provide support. Also, don't think H does'nt notice when you hold it in. I can sense more about what is going on with my W than she can.
******************************************* that's just it-I don't think I'm pushing at all anymore, and I don't go around all the time frowning and depressed, most of the time I'm ok, and happy that we're together, we laugh and joke and have a good time together, it just gets to me sometimes-and when it does, I seem to be left alone to deal with it. *********************************************
I think the same happens to all of us. It's just that you are a bit more needy now. I can say I experience the same thing sometimes. This is when I choose to get away for a while , to renew my spirit. I think I feel another fishin trip comin on.
Try to look back at the past 6 months. Try to find the small improvements that have occurred. If the things you have tried don't work, try something off the wall like going out without him. Stay out most the night having fun. If your always the responsible adult in the relationship, try the other side. Just a little irresponsibility. Fake it if you must. Kindof like an experiment to try to shake H off center.
I offered one example. I'm sure there are thousands of others. I keep the OR stuff for the C sessions. Especially anything heavy.
