Jilly Just wanted to let you know that the first week after Retrouvaille was a tough one for us also. Sure hope your H will go for the follow-up that really is important. Glad you gently reminded him. Here's what helped me. Keeping the dialog to non-judgementally accepting feelings EVEN if I thought my H wasn't doing his part. Keep it to the suggested time. Make a commitment to your self that no matter what you will not participate in an argument during dialog time. If you somehow miraculously get into an argument during dialog time anyway don't get upset with yourself just figure out how your H pushed your button and be ready next time. No matter what happens realize that something positive did happen during that weekend which proves things can be better. Hanging on to it is tough, it takes lots of practice and patience. Rooting for you both.
