Hi folks,
So glad more people are writing in this forum. It has helped me hugely to get support from those in this segment of the journey. I'm happy to report that my "noncommunicative" H is becoming much more talkative. It really does seem like a miracle to me. We've still got plenty to straighten out and I'm learning that it's going to straighten out differently than I'd imagined because my H is taking such an active role that it's a joint creation. Our relationship is almost like a child, something we've created that has a life all it's own. We are actually beginning to understand each other I think (sure hope so !) I have been able to be very emotional and say exactly what's on my mind in a kind, non-blaming way and he's understanding and not withdrawing. This makes me feel free and like I've got a real partner. He tells me that he's feeling understood also. I'm feeling loved, getting pretty close to feeling like he's ready to be really married --or maybe I'm just starting to see it. Know there will be tough days ahead too and yearn for some boring days. Hope I'll learn to be better ready for the harder days and keep an even keel.