Lots of great stuff in that post Fran.
My own libido increased with age. I did not have a high sex drive as a teen or in my early twenties, it gradually increased and in my 30s it was ridiculous and now I'm in my 40s it is still high but not as distractingly high as it was in my 30s.
Well no wonder I feel like I'm climbing the walls sometimes. And it is true, my 30's have also increased my libido. I feel more of an underlying horniness all the time that I don't think I had as much before. But I have noticed it may take me a little longer sometimes to reach O than when I was late teens/early 20'S. I was never able to have multiple O's until mid 30's though. That's new for me. Something biological must be going on there.
When I was younger and used to get easily distracted (thinking about something else entirely) during sex, my bf would keep talking in a sexy way and make me talk back to keep my mind on it. This kept me on topic until I could get properly aroused.
Oh, my college boyfriend used to do that. Loved it. miss it.
With LD women sex really is a mind game, sexy music in the background can help. Watching a very mildly erotic movie can help - a love story with a little bit of emotionally connected passionate LM in it rather than any thing raunchy. I think it is a mind game for HD women as well. And yes, watching a passionate movie can get me very horny.
Keeping track of her cycles can help too. It is a fact that women are hornier around ovulation time. Yes! In the middle of my cycle right now. Just finished eating too much chocolate (need more mid cycle) and also plan on attacking my H tonight (screw the integrity this weekend, I'm horny).
I would aim to get her to O about once a week but not more. I remember having the feeling that I only had so many O's per week in me and if BF tried to ML too often it was just a chore to try to get me to O. I'd have been happier with quickies and once a week long slow passionate session. I agree that the long passioante LM session is not do-able more than a few times a week. Even for me. I'd much rather mix it up with some quickies here and there.
Just some added woman's perspective for you Sammy.