Kent, thanks for the encouragement...I've been thinking about this all day-and after having gone through this whole thread again, the one by ALTL and the newest one between Michele and Joanne and the attached history-I have decided what to give my H for our anniversary on Tuesday.

My goals for our marriage. I have yet to put them on paper but have a few ideas....I just need to express them in a constructive and non-judgemental manner.

Between this, paying bills, kids (H is out of town) and studying for a biochem exam-it should be a fun evening!

L