I didn't see your response until today, but I appreciate your insight. My H is not big on talking about things, and I am trying at this point to let his actions speak for him. There have been some rough times, but on the whole I would say things are going okay, and he doesn't seem ready to bolt at the first sign of a disagreement. I think you're right--he probably has a lot of his own "stuff" he's still dealing with, and I am trying to keep summoning that patience that has gotten me this far!
I too think I've learned to think before I speak (at least sometimes!), to let some things go, maybe even to take a few risks that I wouldn't have dared to before. Hopefully the end result will be a rebuilding of something better that what we had.
Thanks to all on this board who have been so much help to me, and perhaps one of these days I'll be posting a true success story!
