Are you kidding! No way will I ever believe that I, or any woman, has the innate inclination to desire good sex less than any man! Have you been reading Freud?
Please understand...my " less pressure" method would not work (and didn't work in the beginning) if we hadn't put in all the work with the MC. You have to come to an agreement about what the rules are. He or she (whoever is LD) has to agree to the basics. Believe this: being married to a LD husband is no easier that a LD wife. Of course, each INDIVIDUAL person will respond to different methods.
If you want results, first do the work... and I am sorry to say, sometimes that means pressing the LD spouse until you get a positive response or you find they don't love you enough to go to all that trouble. Scarry!!!! I did it. and I'm glad. Luckily for me, he loves me enough, but if he didn't, I needed to know so I could stop wasting time. The way I saw things was that the marriage was doomed if I didn't push the envelope, so I had nothing to loose.
Don't give up yet; I don't think your lady has got the real message yet. My advice is keep pushing.
