Quote: As for what could be, why do you believe that a person could be happy in a relationship where they can never feel desired? If that was possible, then I would truly be happy right now.
I'm not saying that is what I believe. I believe that you need to find a happy medium. What have you been doing to 'fix' your M in the last few years? So far, it hasn't worked. You can't expect your W to become HD and she can't expect you to become LD. You have to find something that is going to work for YOUR M. You both need to bring to the table, measures that you think may help get your R back on track. No shooting each other's ideas down in flames, just constructive discussion. If she's not willing to do this, then maybe you will have to live without being desired or get out of your M. You always have a choice. Sometimes they're all not ideal, but what can you do?
I really do hope things work out for you CeMar.
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'
