i would just like to say this post is so theraputic for me. i cried when i read michelle's first chapter, and have since shared it with my fiance and now we are on the road to recovery - even though it seems like it's going to take some time. and things go up and down... but they are on an up now. we have made some goals and seem to both want the same thing. but her LD amazes me. and this post in particular is so unbelievably relevant i had to reply as my first post here. let me first say i identify with CeMar like crazy. i am 28 and my fiance is 33 and right after we started dating things went downhill. i would have broken up with her but i was so in love i wanted to give it a shot. i didn't want to propose after i became aware of her LD. but i did eventually, because i truly believed she loves me and we can work this out. since we've been engaged, things have gotten worse. down to once a month, and, at that, less than 5 minutes and very, very basic. the 'off limits' and 'pressure' issues describe us to a tee. but we have been working together and reading SSM together and it seems like we have a good plan to be intimate once a week. at her discretion. if this doesn't happen, i won't know what to do. i also don't know what to do if her 'gifting' remains her giving me a HJ while fully clothed and looking away. i had to beg her to kiss me on the neck last week. i hope she doesn't find this thread, she's very computer savvy. i need the support though. i'm with you, CeMar, if 'gifting' included BJs i would be about as happy as any man in the universe. am i alone in that all i can manage to fantasize about is my fiance? she IS that french restaurant! you are totally right! i pray our goals and working together are successful. i love her so much and want to have a family some day. even more than that, though, i dream of her being HD one day and tearing my clothes off every chance she gets. thanks for your great posts everyone. hope this isnt' off topic.
