StarvingD She's NOT just making excuses, not just putting off being intimate with me. There have been times when we have tried, and the obvious pain she's in at the time makes it obvious that it (sexual intimacy) is not going to work for either of us. I hear you on those items. My W which I refer to as BB, has some aging medical problems too. sometimes when she is somewhat pissed, the physical part is not easy. Too tight, too dry and I hate like heck to put her through more uncomfortable activities. When she is feeling connected IC is not too bad. We starting using lube a couple of years ago but she kind of need more than lube now. So far Astroglide has worked the best.
As to other alternatives, BJ's or hand jobs...maybe it's just me, but those at best are very poor seconds,............. I understand, sort of like stale bread, but isn't stale bread better than no bread? A HJ with some hot kissing and both of us making out, is somewhat satisfying. In my case, it is me doing most of the making out.
Here are a few words from the book Have you ever had a romance that began with enormous potential and suddenly fizzled for no good reason not long after sex entered the equation? Or have you found that over time your libido, or your partner’s, declined radically, leaving you both anxious, irritable, and susceptible to infidelity? Quite understandably, these changes cause intense emotional misery.
Lillieperl is also reading the book and has made a few comments.
a two edge sword, and unfortunately it never seems to cut in my favor. Like I said before, we cant fix your spouse unless they want to change. sometimes both spouses post on the forum. Any chance of that happening?
