Jamie, I just read your string here and believe me I got so much out of it. My wife and I are on the road to reconciliation ( see string "WE ARE GETTING CLOSER" In this forum). My problem is of course impatience but after DBing for the last seven months I know where to express that impatience, here on the board. I must admit that periodically, it has slipped out but after Dbing for a while I have learned to kinda' monitor myself. I appreciate your post because I am in truly uncharted waters right now. I would really appreciate you monitoring my post from time to time to kinda share some of your recon experience. PEACE mikeg