There is a tremendous amount of reality to my wife's issues regarding medical problems...in fact, therein is a bit of the problem. She's NOT just making excuses, not just putting off being intimate with me. There have been times when we have tried, and the obvious pain she's in at the time makes it obvious that it (sexual intimacy) is not going to work for either of us.
As to other alternatives, BJ's or hand jobs...maybe it's just me, but those at best are very poor seconds, ranking right up there with sympathy/duty sex, it's like giving a starving man an appetizer and telling him to make a meal out of it.
As to avoiding sex because of her medical issues...I think a great deal of the time, that her medical issues make having intimacy puts her through more than is fair to expect of her, but none the less does not mitigate my own very real needs....so, a two edge sword, and unfortunately it never seems to cut in my favor.
Porn...I associate it right up there with everything else in life...done in moderation, it's fine, but if one is over indulgent with it, it can be addiction.
Starving Dragon
PS...thanks for the welcome.
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