Sparkless To tell you the truth Lou, O'ing mostly isn't worth the trouble it takes to get there
I heard this from women on a couple of TV programs and have been the one to try to help my W, BB reach the peak, so she could slide over the edge. She said getting there was work, even though she considered herself somewhat HD at the time (1981). No interest in "O's" since.

Then you have to clean up afterwards
Normal clean-up or female squirting type of cleanup, in that case a plastic sheet and 2 thick towels do the trick. I heard this on a TV program. I have no personal experience in this area.

I would love to be my H for a day and feel what he does during sex.
Sparkless, if I could swap experiences with BB for a month or more, I would do what I could to help her. There have been so many times I wish she could feel the excitement I feel during ML/sex. I was thinking about posting details, but thought it might not be appropriate at this time. Too much about me and not enough about you or maybe not helpful to you.

All I can say is having good sex and making it a two-way street is better and more exciting than anything else I do. Would I give up food and sleep? No. But a good make-out/ML session is the most fun and pleasurable excitement I have ever had. Does that mean that I don't get nervous or am never reluctant to have sex> No, sometimes it is tricky when considering BB's response. Will she go for it? Am I being a pest and so on?

At the moment the only benefit for me in having sex with my H is that it keeps him in a good mood.
Me too.

Lack of sex (from his POV) I assume? When he 'loses the plot', he screams, yells, throws things and puts holes in the wall with his hands and the latest incident was with his head. ....... that is a whole other story!
OUCH and sorry to hear it gets that bad. Not every guy is like that. Back to the idea of what is acceptable or out of line. (anger management counseling?)

Do you sense he feels like it (sex) is never going to happen and he thinks he has to ramp-up his efforts in a negative, 'desperation' way for you to agree to sex or do you think it is mostly a 'power play' like he is going to 'win at all costs'?

No matter why, its still tough for both of you and holes in the walls are not acceptable.


Do you think he would read any books to help both of you?


Lou

I have to look up that big hydro-electric dam project in your country again. I read about it about a year ago. It took me a couple of nights, Googeling it.