Karen,

"Do you still want sex?" Wow, those five words kinda hit me, for their powerful simplicity. I'm still trying to think of what my answer is.

I guess, if you look at how I've reacted to my wife's issues (giving up), you could make the case that I really DON'T want sex, or at least I don't want it BAD enough to have to go ahead and deal with the steps that are going to be necessary for us to reinstitute our sex lives.

I know this: I know that I clearly DON'T want it, if she's not "there", and obviously only doing it to be dutiful. Does that make me CeMar, but a slightly better writer? Maybe. But I don't want SEX; I want my beautiful wife to WANT to have sex, and to want to have it with ME.

Choc.