DAMMIT, I just spent 15 minutes on a reply, and somehow I lost it all. I'll write more later, Karen, but thanks for the translation, and suffice to say for now that:

-- I HAVE asked her
-- she told me what she wanted me to work on (and they were not small, easy things for me)
-- I did them
-- she's responded with NOTHING of what I've said I want

So I pretty much gave up.

Choc.