Let me describe womanese here. Your W is trying to distract you from the topic at hand. She is assigning the pressure she feels to you, saying it is coming from you, regardless of whether or not you initiate. That is sheer bs. The pressure she feels comes from her but she is trying to distract you and herself from making a choice because she knows that the choice could define the future of your R. Of course she "knows" that you want sex sometime regardless of whether or not you initiate but that doesn't mean that the pressure comes from you. Make sense? How to put that dilemma back on her? "Well, W, I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling pressured. You are right to feel that way because I do want sex on a regular basis. I do not want to live in a sexless M. What do you want?"
