I find Schnarch a bit hard to follow; what does he say is the way to get what is rightfully her dilemna back ONTO her? If my wife feels pressure if I initiate, and if she feels pressure when I DON'T initiate, but talk about my lack of satisfaction with our love life, and if she feels pressure when I neither initiate NOR talk about it (but she "knows what I'm thinking", and she "knows I'm dissatisfied"), then what's the answer?
