My wife has told me that she felt "pressured", even when I hadn't initiated, asked for sex, or even complained for MONTHS at a time. I asked her "How have I ONCE even pressured you -- can you give me an example?"
She said, "Well, even when you don't ask, I just KNOW that you want it, so that's pressure, too."
Sigh . . .
I've heard others express the exact same thing on this board. The sense of "feeling pressured" (I'm talking about in the absence of "pawing" and "grabbing", etc.) is entirely in the head of the LD partner, and something that is THEIR issue that needs to be dealt with. There is nothing that the higher-desire partner can do to relieve that "pressure," much in the same way that even when you do everything on the spousal "to-do" checklist, other items will be added.
