One more time. It's accepting her as she is, just as you want to be accepted as you are. You obviously resist the thought of having to become LD now don't you? Because IMPO that's what you think your W would like....it's not really any different than what you are expecting of your W. You want her to change....and to her that feels like "I'm not good enough" and that you are demanding. People will naturally resist change you if someone continually points out their flaws.
I'm in the middle of this struggle right now. My W says "I'm trying to change". As Cemar has pointed out, there is a catch 22 here. I don't want her to force herself to be something she isn't. That isn't real. I want authentic desire from her, not some act intended to placate me. So, if it simply isn't in her natural make-up, I either need to learn to accept that or move ahead without her.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
