Semi agree with that - I wish my H would put himself in my position for a while and realize that it's not easy changing something that you've been for your whole life. It's an act of love - I know I love my husband, I know I find him attractive but sex is not the way I always express it. I do feel that I'm the one that is doing the work when he is being inpatient waiting for that total turn around and not really happy that it takes time and increments of getting there. Now here is a little bit of the warning : I DO NOT WANT my H to become LD by any means. I still want him to initiate the intimacy - I need it to find my own confidence. But I also need that balance between me and him, I need him to acknowledge my baby steps and not constant reminder that he needs MORE. Does that help/make sense?
