Cemar might be taking an apprach that excludes his wifes perspective but he does have some valid points.
I have always struggled with the 'not giving pressure' aspect. Define pressuring and when to draw the line...isn't there always going to be pressure? As the HD man in a SSM we crave the wife to actually want sex and not feel pressure from us but to want to have sex on thier own accord...so the whole pressure thing confuses us.
