Hmmm....my first inclination would be to reply along the lines of Hap, please don't fondle my breasts unless you do intend something sexual. I have no inclination to respond like Sparkless though I understand what she is saying. However, upon further consideration I do think my reaction to having my breasts touched would vary depending upon context and my perceived intent of the touchee. The reason I say this is that I don't find a breast exam by my gynecologist to be at all erotic and I didn't find a little hand patting my breast while I breastfed at all erotic. So I suppose if I wasn't feeling particularly sex starved and my H were to say "I would like to give you a non-erotic breast massage." I could experience the touch in a more sensual rather than sexual way. So, CeMar, I would say that lack of communication is the problem because, frankly, I can't imagine you saying that to your wife anymore than I can imagine my H saying it to me.
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