Dontchya get it? CeMar has to be right. If he's right...then that would mean this whole mess IS his wife's fault (that is afterall what he keeps angling at). If it's all her fault, then he doesn't have to do anything but sit back and think how horrible she is for doing this to him. That lets him off the hook for doing any work to repair this situation....which would also require him to take a good hard look at himself and his behavior.
That may sound harsh to some people....but it's my humble opinion of what I've observed of CeMar over the last few years. It's always turned around to "why can't/won't the LD...." or "my W won't/doesn't/can't...." rather than "what can I do to improve myself, or what am I doing to contribute to this? Am I really meeting her needs?" He always deflects the problem away from him having any responsibility.
