Why are certain areas of the body off-limits until you are in just the right mood?
For example, if I get into bed at night and reach over and caress the wife and start massaging her legs and back, and slowly work my way up the body, and let my hand graze her breasts, I darn near get my arm cuttoff, like I did something horrible. I don't understand this reaction. Why would a person NOT like to have their body touched. H#ll, if my wife just hopped into bed and grabbed my d#ck, I would think I had died and gone to heaven. So the attention I crave to have done to me she hates. This makes absoalutely no sense to me. And its not like I grab her parts all the time, it happens far less then once a week. Why does it take arrousal before I can touch the forbidden areas without risk of losing limbs?
Like I said, this reaction is the OPPOSITE of what I would do, so it is tough to understand.
Because perhaps she was NOT in the mood for you to initiate sex with her. Perhaps she just didn't want to have sex with you. Very simple answer. She wasn't interested. When I am not interested I don't want to be bothered either.
Yes, you are opposite. Glad you finally see that. She is a WOMAN and you are a MAN. She is not supposed to be like you, think like you, nor act like you. She is her own person with her own thoughts and likes and etc.
CeMar, I am very ticklish and being tickled can be very annoying. My breasts are very sensitive and are very much errogenous zones for me, but not if I'm not aroused first.
Take notice of your W's reactions and don't necessarily take it as 100% rejection. She probably just doesn't like her breasts fondled out of the blue.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
No, I don’t think I could because I really have no clue who CeMar is. I know much more about his wife than him. I’m not sure others here know much about him either. That is what frustrates everyone. He is so scared he hasn’t opened up once.
There was never any intent for sex. It is the LD that assume this. What about spooning, cuddling, petting, caressing. Everyone is talking about this new book on touching without the orgasam. It is a little hard to do this when so much of the body is off limits and hidden.
She is a woman. Then why are HD women so VASTLY different then LD women. HD women understand that there is all kinds of sensual touching that will not lead to sex. My wife on the other hand is either in "Park" with the engine off, of running full steam towards orgasam, there is absolutely nothing in between. THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX, this is about touching NON-SEXUALLY.
Quote: THIS IS NOT ABOUT SEX, this is about touching NON-SEXUALLY
How?
Obviously, if your wife respnded differently and turned and responded in a sexual manner to that act, then it became sexual touching. Is this touching acceptable between brother and sister? Between parent and vhild? NO! It is sexual in nature and can not be defined in any other manner. Whether the act of sex follows or not.
MHO
F4W (who has already travelled this road)
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
This was NOT about sex. The problem is that SHE automatically thinks that IT must lead to sex. What she is clearly telling me is that her breasts are off limits to me completely, EXCEPT during arrousal. This leads to stepping on eggshells, I must make sure to avoid those areas at ALL other times. No arrousing, no playfulness, no caressing, absoultely nothing. Everyone on here assumed it was to get sex, IT IS NOT. It's just freaking physical touch. If I want to pat her ass once in a blue moon, that should be no problem, but to her, she gives me dirty looks. Its a little hard to arrouse a women who has arrousal problems when you can't touch them!
