Lisa- You've asked a good question, but I'm not I know the accurate answer at the moment. At various points in my separation I considered relocating to be closer to my family and, I suppose, saw that the move might be a form of LRT. The whole concept, however, of what I was considering doing for me and my children and what I was considering doing for strategical purposes to get my H's immediate attention became blurred at some stage and I knew that I had to truly begin doing those things that were best for me and my children and alter them only if they would likely significantly impair reconciliation possiblities. Once I learned to slow down and stop worrying about H's plans, I was able to pay closer attention to the progress, albeit in baby steps, that H and I were making. I'll think more about your LRT quetion and post any additional thoughts to you on your thread.
Sue Ann- DBing really is something that has a solid place in my life. I think we all have some vulnerability to sliding back into old ways and ruts and that we, therefore, need to catch ourselves during weak moments. Interestingly, I see my H catch himself now and I smile to myself knowing that he too, without really knowing it, has incorporated DB principles into his half of the equation! I'm glad to read that things are going so well for you. I saw your recent post on Snodderly's thread and agree that it is pretty amazing when you think back to the way things were a year ago. You've done fantastically!
Take care--Jamie
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