Has anyone ever had contact with OP. I have met OP and OP lied directly to my face then told my spouse I fabricated story. My spouse thinks OP and I should be friends and get along. I cannot do that because OP is destroying my family.
I cannot see at all how it would be possible to have a relationship with OP. No way would I want them to be around me. Tell your W that in time it *may* be possible but that you still have unresolved issues and it still hurts to think about her with OP. When that changes you can think about having a *friendly* relationship with OP.
Personally, I told H that I would never be able to be his friend while he was with OW. I could be his friend if he were with ANYONE else, but not the woman who came into my house, pretended to be my friend and then slept with my H.
Just know that most of these Affairs don't withstand the light of day. So keep DBing, stand your ground, and keep that Ahole away from you. You can't get away from the trigger emotions while he is in your face. Or at least that is my opnion.
I told my wife that he is an adulterer and a respectable man wouldn't do that. If he was divorcing his wife, to marry mine. Maybe I would have half and ounce of respect for the SOB, but he just using my naive wife for one thing. This guy is unreal, it is like he has some sort of mind control over my wife. When I met him I told what POS he was for trying to destroy my family and that I saw right thru all his desperate guy tactics. Everytime my wife tries to talk about the affair being wrong he cries and then showers her with gifts. I can't wait for Karma to hit this guy!
Nope. Couldn't do that. Sorry. My W has said OM wanted to meet me too. WTF? At least SHE knew that it was not possible without me being brought up on charges afterward.
That is one boundary I am NOT ready to cross anytime soon, and it's NOT because I think OM is some kind of evil POS, it's just because I have NO use for him in my life and he is a trigger that no matter how strong I become in the ways of the force...er...DBing, I don't think I could resist the feelings I would feel if I had to be around him.
Absolutely no way in hell. I was actually friends with the guy before this all happened. We wern't best buds or anything but had gone hunting with him. In my sitch, my wife persued him in order for her to get out of the marriage and he finally gave in after months of her persuit. I would still beat is arse if the timing was right. I live in a small town so I do run accross him once in while.
Married 11 years, together 15
Two Daughters 6 and 2
D-day Jan.14 2006
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