I cannot see at all how it would be possible to have a relationship with OP. No way would I want them to be around me. Tell your W that in time it *may* be possible but that you still have unresolved issues and it still hurts to think about her with OP. When that changes you can think about having a *friendly* relationship with OP.
Personally, I told H that I would never be able to be his friend while he was with OW. I could be his friend if he were with ANYONE else, but not the woman who came into my house, pretended to be my friend and then slept with my H.
Just know that most of these Affairs don't withstand the light of day. So keep DBing, stand your ground, and keep that Ahole away from you. You can't get away from the trigger emotions while he is in your face. Or at least that is my opnion.
